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If you want to know how to get a guy to like you, there is one important key to attraction: emotional connection.

What makes someone attractive? Is it physical looks or are there other ways make him want you?

More often than not, physical attraction is one reason why a person would want to try and pursue a relationship.

Although physical appearance does play an important role in attraction (especially upon first meeting someone), emotional attraction still has a major contribution to why a person not only stays in a relationship but makes it last.

When a man has an emotional connection to you, he is drawn to your entire being — your mind, spirit, morals, and values. With this, he develops a deeper connection with you and can let his guard down and be vulnerable and true when he is with you.

If you want a man to invest his time and energy and pursue a relationship with you, you need to learn how he will become emotionally attracted to you.

1. Respect him

Respect him the way you want to be respected with the level of respect that you think you deserve. You need to learn how to listen eagerly to what he wants to say, his view in life, give him the space that he needs, and be a friend when he needs one.

Giving respect is a way of building trust and safety in your relationship.

When a man trusts you, he will open up to you more. He feels secure that his secrets are safe with you; therefore, he feels more protected and develops an emotional connection with you.

You should also be comfortable confiding to him. Don’t be afraid to appear vulnerable when you are with him. Express freely what you feel, think, fear, or even your secrets.

This will give him space in your life to come in and just be a man to help you, give you advice, and comfort you.

Accepting his support courteously will be even more reassuring on his part. Thus, he will also start to open up to you more and this will nurture mutual trust and a stronger emotional bond.

3. Be present as often as you can

If you have the chance to see him personally, be around him regularly.

To utilize the senses in attracting him, emotionally, here’s what you need to know.


The eyes are the windows to the soul. Eye contact is one weapon you can use to build attraction. People tend to like someone who also likes them, and how can you make it obvious without blurting out words? Through eye contact!

Making eye contact has a lot of advantages. Eye contact is the easiest way to let somebody know that you notice them or that your attention is on them.


There are certain scents that cause one person to be attracted to another. There are also studies about how you can make a person’s body odor identify subconsciously if a person is a potential mate.

Remembering a certain scent is difficult, like identifying what brand of perfume you smell. But scents allow you to remember or recall memories.

Find scents that suit you and wear that every time you will meet him because you will subconsciously instill a memory of you in his mind. Even when you are away, if he smells a similar scent of your perfume, that scent will instantly trigger thoughts of you.


Touching plays a crucial role in generating attraction in relationships. You can persuade someone by lightly touching them.

In fact, there are some studies that show that when a person asking a favor lightly touches you, you are more likely to act and return the favor back to that person.

Sound of your voice

If you are in a long-distance relationship, just met somebody online, or you don’t see that person often, you can still build an emotional connection with someone by just using your voice.

Call him instead of sending him messages via text or cha — it’s is more personal and special. He will think that you love listening to his voice and that you miss him more.

Source: How To Get A Guy To Like You & Make Him Want You By Building An Emotional Connection | Esther Bilbao | YourTango